April 4, 2012

A helpful story – we decide how we respond and how we live…we have choices…

Posted in Uncategorized at 4:21 pm by aleksan

John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always
in a good mood and always has something positive to
say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he
would reply, ‘If I were any better, I would be twins!’

He was a natural motivator.

If an employee was having a bad day, John was there
telling the employee how to look on the positive side
of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I
went up and asked him, ‘I don’t get it!

You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do
you do it?

He replied, ‘Each morning I wake up and say to myself,
you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a
good mood or … you can choose to be in a bad mood

I choose to be in a good mood.’

Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a
victim or…I can choose to learn from it. I choose to
learn from it.

Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can
choose to accept their complaining or… I can point
out the positive side of life. I choose the positive
side of life.

‘Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,’ I protested.

‘Yes, it is,’ he said. ‘Life is all about choices.
When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a
choice. You choose how you react to situations. You
choose how people affect your mood.

You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The
bottom line: It’s your choice how you live your life.’

I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left
the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost
touch, but I often thought about him when I made a
choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a
serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a
communications tower.

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care,
he was released from the hospital with rods placed in
his back.

I saw him about six months after the accident.

When I asked him how he was, he replied, ‘If I were
any better, I’d be twins…Wanna see my scars?’

I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what
had gone through his mind as the accident took place.

‘The first thing that went through my mind was the
well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter,’ he
replied. ‘Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered
that I had two choices: I could choose to live or…I
could choose to die. I chose to live.’

‘Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?’ I
asked

He continued, ‘..the paramedics were great.

They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when
they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions
on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really
scared. In their eyes, I read ‘he’s a dead man’. I
knew I needed to take action.’

‘What did you do?’ I asked.

‘Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions
at me,’ said John. ‘She asked if I was allergic to
anything ‘Yes, I replied.’ The doctors and nurses
stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a
deep breath and yelled, ‘Gravity’.’

Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to
live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.’

He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also
because of his amazing attitude… I learned from him
that every day we have the choice to live fully.

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